Here's What Happened Once I Learned Growth And Comfort Couldn't Coexist

I thought my first relationship was everything. My boyfriend and I were shacking up, having premarital sex, bonding over getting high--you know, “relationship goals.” I was comfortable, comfortable because I had someone, comfortable because I loved him and he loved me. Then I realized, the love God and I had for each other was much different. It didn’t encourage comfort, the easy way out.

Soon after I surrendered to God, He immediately started dealing with me concerning that same relationship I previously thought was “relationship goals.” I noticed whenever I would talk to my boyfriend about God he grew angry. He said he respected my decision, but didn’t believe in God. God let me know we were unequally yoked and I couldn’t be in a relationship with someone who didn’t love Him the way I did.

I tried to ignore God, but whenever I scrolled on social media I’d come across 2 Corinthians 6:14, “Do not be yoked together with unbelievers. For what do righteousness and wickedness have in common? Or what fellowship can light have with darkness?” I had no peace about the relationship and knew I had to obey God. Breaking up with him wasn’t easy, but I knew I had to let him go. At that moment I knew what it meant to follow Jesus and His word in order to experience growth.

It’s not a coincidence that I had to leave somebody who was important to me, but God was calling me to grow. Whenever God calls us to follow Him, He’s calling us to leave what is comfortable. Many people in the Bible had to leave what/who they were familiar with to pursue God. For example, Abraham left his country and family to go to a distant land. Elisha left his job and parents to follow Elijah. Simon Peter and his brother Andrew left their jobs as fishermen to follow Jesus. James and his brother John left their father to follow Jesus.

I realized life begins at the end of our comfort zone. We can’t grow if we’re always doing what’s comfortable. Once I learned the two couldn’t coexist I got comfortable with the uncomfortable. To be honest, sometimes it’s scary not always knowing where God is taking me, but it allows me to put my trust in Him. God’s plans are to prosper me, not to harm me, to give me hope and a future. Reassuring myself of His promises helps me walk by faith, not by sight, because that’s the only way I will experience growth during every season.