How To Deal With A Breakup 101

I told myself that I would finally make this blog when I felt I was ready and over the situation. This was actually supposed to be my second blog post but I wasn't ready at the time and it took months but I'm finally ready. So for me it was different because me and my ex were on good terms when we broke up and there was no hard feelings. I think it hurt so much because it was my first real relationship and we were each other's first love. I knew that I had to separate myself from him and he told me that even if we weren't together he wanted me to be happy. So we were together for a year, but after I got saved I knew that God was telling me that I had to end it. People were telling me about being unequally yoked and I just kept seeing tweets about it randomly. One thing I know is that God will use anything to get your attention, and if you ignore Him, He will continue to do it until you listen. So we actually broke up about three times, the first time and I just want y'all to know that I finally understood what heartbreak was. It felt like my heart had broke into a million pieces. My heart has never felt heavy like that before. I was so sad that I didn't even want to tweet about God anymore and I didn't feel like reading my Bible or praying at all. So we talked and I ended up getting back with him. I tried to tell him about God, heaven and hell but I realized that you can't make someone have a relationship with God, they have to want it for themselves. So we ended up breaking up again and I honestly didn't feel anything until like a couple weeks later and I realized how sad and lonely I was. Got back together AGAIN and broke up again, this time for good. Just thinking about him made me sad, I'd see other happy couples and I'd get sad, watching romantic movies made me sad, he would be in my dreams, I just couldn't catch a break. I literally cried myself to bed everyday for about 2 months straight and it sucked really bad. I felt like it wasn't fair that I was helping all these people but really I was so lonely and sad. I felt like God was mad at me because I wanted to be with someone who didn't want Him. I know there's people in the Bible who literally had to drop everyone in their life and go do what God said, so why was I any different. I just really felt myself slipping into a dark place and I really didn't want to go back. I've only been depressed once when I had got sick and I told myself never again. It's been 5 months and I wish it didn't take this long for me to get over the situation, but I am happy that now I'm able to help others going through the same thing. I still pray for my ex all the time that God will send the perfect person in his life to preach the Gospel to him and that one day he will get saved. I don't want him to get saved just for us to be together, but I want him to be saved so that he'll be okay and that he can tell others about God.

I want y'all to please just wait on God. We see a cute person and go hey we'd look good together. It's not about looks and to be honest it's not even about them being saved. The only thing that matters is if that's the person that God has for you. When it's God's will, it's done right. You shouldn't just want what makes you happy, you should want what makes God happy.

I'm not saying breakups are easy because trust me I know they're not but I do know that God will see you through it, just like He saw me through it. I would feel lonely a lot and I would just talk to God at night even if I was crying, but just reassuring yourself that you have God helps. Please know that it's okay to cry. I can't imagine going through that breakup without God on my side, I probably wouldn't have gotten as far as I am now. It's crazy because any time I would be talking about my breakup to someone else it would make me cry but I didn't shed one tear writing this so I know God has healed my heart. I hope this blesses someone and know that you're not alone. ❤️

2 Corinthians 6:14-16- Don’t be teamed with those who do not love the Lord, for what do the people of God have in common with the people of sin? How can light live with darkness? And what harmony can there be between Christ and the devil? How can a Christian be a partner with one who doesn’t believe? And what union can there be between God’s temple and idols? For you are God’s temple, the home of the living God, and God has said of you, “I will live in them and walk among them, and I will be their God and they shall be my people.”